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Effects of Alcoholism on the Family

How Alcohol Use Affects Our Loved Ones Too

People who have an alcohol addiction continue to engage in compulsive behaviors despite adverse consequences. Many of these negative consequences affect the individual's health and well-being, but family, friends, and other loved ones are also often affected.

If we are a friend or family member of a person with an alcohol use disorder (AUD), we might be searching for ways to understand our loved one's behaviors better. It can feel like a struggle not to internalize their hurtful actions, but the reality is that people with an alcohol problem may not fully understand the impact that their actions have on friends and family.

It can often be helpful for family members to learn more about alcohol use disorders and explore ways to improve their responses during interactions with someone who has a drinking problem. This may mean setting ground rules and joining a support group, such as Al-Anon, explicitly designed to meet the needs of families of people with alcohol use issues.

At a Glance

Alcohol misuse can have a severe detrimental impact on the health and well-being of individuals as well as their families. Treatment is essential and can help people recover their normal functioning and improve relationships with their partners, children, and other loved ones.

Support from family and friends is essential, but people who make up the individual's support system also need to be sure they care for themselves. Reaching out to support groups, seeking educational resources, and talking to a mental health professional can all be beneficial if you have a loved one who has an alcohol use problem.

Effects of Alcohol on the Brain

Loved ones of people with alcohol use disorder may feel less empathy for them and become more frustrated with them as time passes. We get how challenging this can be, but it may help to learn about how alcohol affects the brain.

Alcohol can impair an individual's motor and cognitive abilities. This occurs while a person is drinking. It can also create longer-term impairments that persist even after a person is no longer intoxicated.

Chronic, heavy alcohol consumption can cause reductions in both white and gray brain matter, leading to brain shrinkage. This can lead to problems with:

  • Attention

  • Impulsivity

  • Learning

  • Memory

  • Problem-solving

  • Processing speed

  • Spatial processing

  • Verbal fluency

Heavy alcohol consumption can also cause malnutrition and vitamin deficiencies, which can further contribute to alcohol's detrimental effects on the brain. In some cases, people may develop alcohol-related dementia or a cognitive disorder known as Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome.

How Alcohol Affects Families

Alcohol use can have a profound negative effect on close relationships. As the problem becomes more severe, people with the condition may withdraw from loved ones or lash out at those who try to help.

Increased Family Problems

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that consuming alcohol increases the risk of family problems and violence. Some of the ways that alcohol may impact families include:

  • Defensiveness: People with an alcohol use disorder may come to see their partner or other family members as a threat. This can create a mindset where a person who is in denial about their alcohol issues may feel attacked or defensive by attempts to get help for the individual or the family unit.

  • Financial problems: It is not uncommon for people to experience financial hardships resulting from their alcohol use. This might be caused by poor choices, job loss, or spending excessive amounts of money on alcohol. Such problems affect the individual with the problem but also create hardships for the entire family.

  • Legal troubles: Alcohol use may also play a role in legal difficulties relating to things like arguments, driving while under the influence, or domestic violence.

  • Negative emotions: Family members may often experience a variety of negative emotions in response to a loved one's drinking, including feelings of sadness, frustration, and fear.

Impact on Children

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration notes that families that are affected by alcohol problems have high levels of confusion and stress. This can make children who grow up in such environments more susceptible to substance use and other mental health problems.

Children who have a parent with an alcohol problem may also experience a wide range of adverse effects and emotions. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry suggests that these feelings may include:

  • Anger

  • Anxiety

  • Confusion

  • Depression

  • Embarrassment

  • Trouble forming close relationships

Kids may also exhibit social withdrawal, risk-taking, and academic problems.

How Families Can Cope

Encouraging our loved ones to get treatment is essential, but other steps can help us protect our well-being.

  • Learn about alcohol use disorders: Educating ourselves about addictions can be helpful. In addition to learning more about how addiction affects the brain, knowing how treatment works can help give us the tools and resources to support our loved ones during their recovery.

  • Set boundaries: Being supportive is important, but it's also essential to establish boundaries regarding our loved one's actions. For example, make it clear that you will not accept drinking in your home and then follow through on the consequences if those boundaries are crossed.

  • Take care of yourself: Caring for a loved one with an alcohol problem can sometimes cause us to neglect our own needs and well-being. Ensure you are giving yourself the things you need to feel well. That includes eating healthy meals, regular physical activity, interacting with friends, getting enough sleep, and pursuing hobbies you enjoy.

  • Talk to a professional: Seeing a therapist can also help us make sense of our experiences. Our therapist can help us learn new ways of coping with our loved one's behaviors and practice new strategies to help cope with feelings of stress.

It is also essential to manage your expectations. Recovery from alcohol addiction is a process that takes time and may involve setbacks.

Support Groups for Family Members

When a loved one is receiving treatment for an alcohol use disorder, family members can also benefit from educational and support programs such as Alateen and Al-Anon. There are several significant benefits of participating in support groups:

  • They may help reduce the risk of kids developing alcohol or substance use problems.

  • Such programs may help identify kids who need additional treatment for problems such as anxiety and depression.

  • These educational and supportive resources can help kids and other family members understand that they are not responsible for their loved one's problems with alcohol.

  • They can help family members feel less isolated and understand that other people out there have also been affected by alcohol misuse.

These support groups can serve as a source of stability, resources, and advice for people who have loved ones who are struggling with alcohol addiction. In addition to finding people who have had similar experiences, we can learn more about how to care for our health and well-being.

Getting Help

If you or someone you love has an alcohol use problem and are concerned about the impact it might be having on family and friends, talk to your healthcare provider. Effective treatments are available, and they can recommend treatment programs that may help with detox and recovery.

Call Us if you or a loved one are struggling with anxiety, depression, substance abuse, or addiction and need help. Our non-profit offers free clinical evaluations and case management services to individuals and families who need them.

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A Very Well Mind Updated on September 18, 2023

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