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10 Steps To Take If An Alcoholic Or Addict Refuses Treatment

They don’t believe that they’re sick, and they don’t think that anything’s wrong. It takes a big wake-up call to get through the addiction and to the person, we all know is still inside, screaming to be let out.

If Your Loved One Is Refusing Treatment:

10. Admit It To Yourself If you’re in denial, it’s not helping anyone. Even for those who haven’t dealt with a family member or a friend falling down the rabbit hole, it can be challenging to admit that their problems have gone on too long, becoming severe or life-threatening. While this doesn’t sound like it directly impacts the suffering person, you’re admitting the problem and bracing yourself to support your loved one. It’s not easy for either side, but when it comes down to it, they need to get better, and you need to be there for them. 9. Educate Yourself Find out what they’re going through on an educational level. While every addiction is different and potentially more harrowing than you may find online, withdrawal symptoms and other synonymous aspects tend to accompany their coupled addictions. It can help you prepare for the future and keep your eyes out for signs of potential overdose.

More than that, it’s also a key component in validating your stance in an intervention down the road. If you know nothing about what your loved one is going through, it isn’t easy to understand the magnitude of the situation from a third-party perspective. Do the research, and understand the specific drug or alcohol issues your loved one is going through to understand their place in all of this better.

8. Decipher The Situation There are different stages of addiction. It’s difficult to determine exactly where your loved one resides. It makes a difference between being able to talk one-on-one with them and realizing that they are too far gone. If you can determine where they are in their addiction, it will be beneficial.

7. Start With The Medical Approach When someone is in the grip of addiction, their clarity quickly withers away. Suggest or schedule a routine check-up appointment. Inform the doctor of the addiction before the visit, and do so for multiple reasons. They’ll be better able to identify the issues and see past the excuses of the individual. Doctors will still protect doctor-patient confidentiality, but in their medical and professional opinions, they can also recommend courses of action, which can be very eye-opening for the person. In some cases, it has been proven to help them think clearly when someone outside of their social or family circle can recognize issues. Before they are too far gone, it’s a wake-up call.

6. Stop Funding If you’ve identified yourself as an instigator or identified as one from an outside perspective, there are ways to prevent it. Fear controls everything; it’s human nature. Fear of losing your loved one to addiction, or to the life it would leave them with, will be detrimental to providing them with the needed environment. The answer has become apparent if you were always wondering why they needed lump sums of money or what they did with it.

There are safe ways to stop this without causing a stir. Instead of being aggressive about it, be anti-confrontational. There is a right time and place for everything. If they ask and you refuse, give a reason. When an individual feels ganged up on, it can cause them to disappear for days at a time, and that’s always very worrying. Refuse to fund their vice.

5. Offer Support Without stating the obvious, let the person know that you are there for them no matter what. It’s straightforward to converse with someone and keep the subject matter silent while both of you know what’s going on. By avoiding bringing it up directly or unveiling anger, you’re showing them that you’re not being judgmental and want to help.

After enough of these timid, non-confrontational discussions, you may notice positive changes in behavior. When an individual is genuinely trying to fight through their addiction, and they begin to show it, you’ve hit a pivotal point in the recovery process. It can be a make-or-break situation. If you’re still offering the same level of support and they are responding appropriately, there may come a time when they openly tell you about their addiction and that they need help. This approach will make the entire process easier and eliminate the need for an intervention.

4. When All Else Fails, Don’t Use Guilt It’s very easy to mix up the thought of an ultimatum and lecturing or to guilt an addicted individual into ceasing their vice usage. Under no circumstances should you attempt to guilt them into quitting their addiction. Phrases like “How could you do this to me,” or anything that will garner guilt and shame from the individual is a surefire no-go.

3. Positively Encourage Them We’ve been able to identify if we are enabling them or if someone else is, but it comes down to one thing. They need help, and whether it’s a therapist or detoxification program, you can encourage them to seek help far better than anyone else can if you’re an important and influential figure in their life.

2. Analyze Where You Are It’s coming down to the wire. If all previous attempts have failed, our number one solution will be the last ditch effort to get your loved one off drugs and give them the health and attention they need to recover. By taking a step back and looking at the last few weeks or months of events, you can better determine if your efforts are proving useful or need to take another stab at this.

1. Intervention We’re not talking about the way that popular culture glorifies interventions. Actual, time-tested interventions which provide ultimatums to the addicted individual can be an effective tool at our disposal for getting through to our loved ones and getting the message across. While some will refer to this as “tough love,” it’s what we’re left with. It’s difficult for everyone involved and will forever be remembered as a pivotal point in the person’s life.

It may take time to heal emotionally, but the risks and rewards of intervention are necessary to draw a line in the sand. Interventions deliver ultimatums and allow the family to constructively express their concerns and emotional pain. Interventions are designed to will the person become a patient; nobody is forced to heal on their own. Even if it comes with some pushing, a person has to walk into that rehab via willpower.

When it comes down to it, there are no surefire ways to reach the person that’s hiding inside. Different methods work for different people. At any point, intervention can be a practical approach to helping your loved ones and gearing them up for what’s in front of them.


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